Why You Should Mutually Masturbate

5 reasons why you should invite your partner to masturbate with you.

We believe that mutual masturbation is one of the hottest and most intimate sexual acts that you can do as a couple. Mutual masturbation can be performed in almost any context – whether you are sitting right next to each other or are across the world. Masturbation isn’t something you just have to do alone! There are no limits on how you can incorporate masturbation into your partnered sex life. Here are 5 reasons why you should invite your partner to masturbate with you.

1. Learn and Teach Preferences
Everyone has different preferences, and this couldn’t be truer than when it comes to sexual exploration. What turned on your last partner won’t necessarily turn on your current one. Each person will respond differently to strokes, touches and caresses. Communication is essential in order to find out what works best for your partner, and watching your partner pleasure themself is the ultimate form of sexual communication.

For example, you might have thought that your partner enjoyed fast and rough motions but after watching them you might realize that long and slow ones do the trick. That would be some pretty good information to know! This is the perfect time to learn what your partner loves as well as to show your partner what you love. You can then take this information and use it the next time you play with each other.

2. Quickies!
Have you ever been running out to an event and just been really turned on by your partner? Like when they casually put on their shirt and slowly do up their buttons? Sometimes you don’t have enough time before the event to have an entire session without being incredibly late to an event. Coming when in a rush is not the easiest thing to do because there isn’t always enough time to get properly warmed up, play around with each other and then make each other orgasm. Thankfully, mutual masturbation is a wonderful solution! You know what works best and fastest for yourself, just like your partner knows what works best and fastest for them. Together, you can both orgasm and still get to the party on time.

3. Be a Voyeur and an Exhibitionist
If you are a voyeur or if you are interesting in what that entails, then mutual masturbation could be perfect for you. While you are able to watch your partner as a voyeur, your partner is also able to watch you. This can create a dynamic scene with both of you being exhibitionists and voyeurs at the same time. You can hear their moans, see their twitches and watch them pleasure themselves. There are options with this – you can watch from very close (like on the same bed) or you can watch from a distance (opposite ends of the room, one person in the shower, etc). You can play around with different scenarios, as you prefer.

4.  Increase Communication
Masturbation is often a topic that we are told to hide from our partners. Even though we’re doing it, we might hide it or be ashamed of it. Letting your partner be part of that experience can be a big step in a relationship. You’re letting them in on a private part of your life. Masturbating in front of someone is a big act of trust. It should that you are comfortable with them and that you are willing to share this part of yourself with them.

If you aren’t entirely comfortable masturbating in front of your partner just yet, then you can always start with pleasuring yourself together. You can take one of their hands to play along with you or ask them to reach a part of your body that you don’t usually touch (like the perineum). You’ll feel closer as a couple after you share this experience.

5. Dealing with Long Distance
Thankfully, apps like FaceTime and Skype were invented. While we don’t think that the creators had masturbation in mind… we definitely do! Long distance is tough! Whether it is a chronically LDR or just a few nights away for a business trip, it kind of sucks. Watching each other masturbate online is an excellent way to still feel close. There are a bunch of app-compatible sex toys available out on the market too to take the masturbation session one step further.

Whether you have all night to enjoy each other or you’re rushing out the door, there are so many benefits to mutually masturbating! If you haven’t tried it, we suggest chatting with your partner about the possibility of trying it out. You’ll learn what they love and you’ll get to show them what you love, all while feeling closer than ever before. It’s time to share some self-love with each other!