26 Oct, 17
This is how seduction works
8 scientific approaches on how to seduce a woman.
There is nothing better than to have sex with the woman of your dreams. But for a lot of men the game of seduction is more confusing than a bra with a clasp on the front. Woman and men are wired in different ways, that’s what makes it fun. When it comes to emotional intimacy, it’s true that women are wired to need it more than men. Sex is a way of letting them express, and in fact, build intimacy. While this is important for men too, emotional intimacy is often more of a by-product of intercourse rather than a key motivator.
Hence, there can be a disconnect between men and women when it comes to sex, and it’s important for the guys to know that most women need to feel desired and pursued before she can be really into it.
Scale Of Sexual Desire
Like men, sexual satisfaction as the motivation behind women having sex is quite obvious. But there is a sexual desire spectrum related to intellectual stimulation that isn’t always so easy to identify. Some types include: sapio-sexual – individuals who are turned on by intelligence; or demi-sexual – individuals who do not get turned on by someone unless there is a strong emotional connection.
Unfortunately, if your partner identifies as asexual, a person who lacks the desire for sex, then perhaps creative new ways need to be discovered to encourage intercourse for that person.
Sometimes, the development of an asexual person is related to a conservative cultural or religious background, or even past sexual trauma; in which case, tread carefully and do not be insensitive. Be supportive throughout her journey to a healthy sexual discovery.
For others whose sexual relationships are more straightforward, here are a few key reasons why women want to have sex.
In a study conducted at the University of California, Los Angeles, United States, 141 women were asked to observe photos of shirtless men, then rank them according to attractiveness. Lean, athletic-looking bodies were seen as more desirable than both bulky and skinny types.
Women tend to perceive big muscular men as threatening. It’s possible that spending all the time bulking up is seen as self-centred, which means she may not get what she wants from you, in terms of time commitment and attention.
It’s The Kiss
A good kiss is the gateway to the “next” level of intimacy for women, so do it well, guys!
A kiss is largely a preview to how intercourse might be with someone, hence why a well-executed smooch could be the way to “qualifying” for the next stage. A study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology found that women are much less likely to have sex with a bad kisser. For that reason, it’s good for guys to be aware of what women see as a good kiss.
From the same study, it was found that men preferred wetter kisses with more tongue action than females did. It’s not terribly romantic to feel like a large dog tongue is slobbering all over you after all. Instead, be a partner who smells good and does a little caressing while kissing.
The Heat Of The Moment
Cuddling causes a woman’s testosterone to surge, a recent Canadian study found. The increase in testosterone levels may cause androgen receptors in her clitoris to switch on, leading to arousal.
How else to get her into the mood? Have a good sense of humour and your chances increase by 25% – and if you’re looking for a mate to settle down with, those chances go up by 31%, says a study in the Journal of Psychology.
The Next Step In A Relationship
After all the wining, dining, wooing and being seen around town together, the sex is still missing. What’s the next step? Commitment. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found commitment to be the key to sexual motivation in women of all ages.
There is no need to get spooked and cut ties with the woman you’re seeing. Commitment does not mean marriage, but rather a serious promise of exclusivity that shows an investment in the relationship.
Imagine, if the shoe is on the other foot and you discover that your girlfriend is dating other men, you will most likely begin questioning the point of being in a relationship with her. No one wants to feel like a spare – showing her that you’re emotionally serious will encourage her to move forward with the physical aspect.
It’s The Romantic Setting
Going on holiday to a new and exciting place can help strengthen or secure a couple’s bond, leading to more intimacy. — Reuters
It may be an old saying, but it rings true. Plan a romantic getaway to an exotic location and that will win you big points, but probably not for the reasons you might expect. The shared intimacy of a couple together in a strange and exciting new place is what strengthens or secures a bond.
A 2005 study in the journal Tourism Management went even further to recommend that couples on vacation prearrange the services of a local tour guide, which “creates a greater sense of intimacy and disclosure”.
It’s To Express Love Or Affection
A study published in the Journal of Psychoneuroendocrinology found that there are significant hormonal changes in both men and women when falling in love. Testosterone levels in women rise, but men’s tend to fall, the study found. And here’s a tip on the best time to catch the woman who’s in love with you – after a good weights workout, which also causes women’s testosterone levels to spike.
And gentleman, another way to heighten her physical interest in you is for her to miss you. We are a little experienced with this. Read our article on the topic. An American Psychological Association study found that travel-related separation creates a surge in hormone levels upon reunion. Being in contact during the separation is important to minimise any negative feelings towards the traveling partner.
Endomorphins, a form of pain reliever, is released during intercourse, which is why some women use sex to feel better from experiencing migraines, or even period cramps. If intercourse is a form of relaxation or recreation, then by all means, each partner should be non-judgemental and supportive. Perhaps in time, you will begin to view it the same way as well.
Other Factors That Impact Female Sex Drive
The longer the relationship, the deeper the emotional security, hence why it’s not surprising if a woman wants to have sex more frequently. Awkward as it may seem, communicating with each other on sexual preferences takes the guessing game out of the equation and allows both of you to get what you want during intercourse.
Take the time to listen to each other, also in the bedroom, and give your relationship and sex life a boost. Have you considered watching quality porn together? Or maybe take a Jessica Drake lesson together?
Source: Star 2
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