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Social Sharing: Curating a Digital Porn Collection for Your Partner

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Social Sharing: Curating a Digital Porn Collection for Your Partner

Talking about and sharing porn is something we encourage in every relationship; it is to deepen your relationship and having fun together.

By Emmeline Peaches

Pornography can often be the elephant in the room for many couples, especially when communication breaks down, and this is something that we lament greatly here at Dusk. For us porn (and porna in particular) is something worth celebrating in a relationship, and the sexual excitement it elicits is something we feel partners should be open and honest about if they’re striving for a healthy relationship.

This involves embracing each other’s pornography habits and being honest about the role they play in your joint and personal sex lives but it also goes beyond that. We believe that porn can be great for couples to share and to enjoy together, and we’re not alone in that thought.

 

Sharing is Caring (In More Ways Than One)

Beyond the benefits of sharing porn, we also feel like it can be a wonderful tool for mutual sexual enjoyment when gifted. But presenting porn to a partner is something that needs to be done right in order to get the intended effect.

Consideration, empathy, and caring are crucial to the experience. Working off these three key aspects we’ve come up with some suggestions to curating a thoughtful collection of porn for your partner—think of it like the smutty mix tape of their dreams that you can both enjoy.

 

Consider Your Partner’s Preferences

Remember—when making this collection you will be working to your partners’ preferences and not your own. This means that you may be working with certain fetishes or scenes that don’t personally arouse you but which you may know your partner loves.

Having an open approach to pornography and sex will greatly assist in this process. Even if you know your partner very well in the bedroom it could well be that their porn preferences vary (or give them a way to view things they would not/could not do themselves). As such it doesn’t pay to think that just because you know your partner’s sexual preferences with you that you also know them when it comes to their smut.

If you don’t have this relationship then it’s worth trying to talk it out at some point, not just for the purpose of this gift but also to deepen your relationship in general. If talking is not an option then consider if the collection itself would even be wanted. If the answer is ‘yes’ then playing it safe may be your only option for now and then you can use your gift to open up further conversations if it’s well-received.

 

Find Appropriate Sites

There’s a lot more to porn than people might guess from a cursory Google search. Worker’s rights, director’s intent, scripting, and the intended audience are all aspects that play in to the production of pornography (along with a slew of other aspects, but we’ll place those aside for now). All of these are worth considering when going about curating a truly considerate collection (for both your partner and the industry as a whole).

Ethical, sincere pornography with real chemistry, real pleasure, and explicit (not sanitized) sex is what we champion, and we’d like to think that porna like this deserves supporting. Pornography with the intent of seeking true pleasure often caters to a wide variety of preferences in addition to putting much more priority on a form of cinematography that captures mutual enjoyment. While it does still allow you to indulge in either a male or female point of view in some cases, it does so with a sense of consideration which we like to think shines through and provides a sincerely arousing and immersive experience.

Invest in ethical sites and you’ll also find the porn industry as a whole catering more to that type of content and thus giving you more content to gift your partner in the long run—it’s a win-win!

 

Make Sex With Your Collection

And, no, we’re not saying masturbate to it (although you’re more than welcome to).

Instead it pays to think of a curated porn collection as a sexual experience in itself and treat it as such.

Start with the gentle, loving content; something that eases your partner in to your gift like a sampling of tender kisses.

Then move on to the more steamy content. Samples of imagery, erotica, and porn/a that will grip your partner like the grasping touch of a lover’s hungry embrace. Captivate them. Arouse them.

Then move on to the content that you consider to be most appealing to them. This may be their favourite fetish, a much-loved porn star, or something similar. Whatever it is consider this you’re A+ material. The show-stopper, if you will.

This allows you to build up your reactions in equal measure with what you’re viewing, or gives your partner a gradual build-up if viewing alone.

In both cases it also pays to finish with a more gentle and affectionate scene. Consider it the visual and emotional aftercare of the collection. This will be just as important as every other section so choose wisely and with a little bit of sap.

 

Present It With Affection (Not Expectation)

Finally, when you gift your curated collection make sure that you approach it in a way that will put them completely at ease.

This approach will vary from partner to partner, so we won’t give specific advice here, but what we will say is that it pays to have no expectations here.

Remember—this collection is a gift, not an obligation for your partner to show gratitude, nor even share their use of it with you. Once you give it over to them it is theirs to use as they wish. That knowledge should be enough for you and, if it’s not, you may want to reconsider who you’re really making this collection for.

If they do want to share then fantastic; allow them to lead and let them know how much it means to you. Then, who knows? You may just end up sharing your gratitude in other ways.

 

By Emmeline Peaches

emmelinepeachesreviews.com

@EmmelinePeaches

 

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