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Healing Through Porn

Porn media headlines tend to have a negative tone to them, but don't underestimate porn, it has healing powers.

When most people think porn media headlines tend to spring to mind, typically with a negative tone to them:

‘People Who Watch Porn Are Less Happy In Their Relationships’

‘Notable Person Caught In Porn Scandal’

‘Man Crushed Under His Own Porn Collection’

Yes, sometimes the stories are as outlandish as the latter and are typically just as damning and shaming. But for some their experience with porn couldn’t be further from these headlines.

Is Porn Inherently Bad?

I think you already know our answer to this, but let’s humour the question for a moment.

No, pornography is not, in and of itself, ‘bad’. Sometimes there are some questionable practices included, and the industry as a whole still has certain aspects it needs to address and challenge, but couldn’t this be said of any media? Why does porn get singled out?

Much as with any medium, porn is something we all engage with in different ways. Yes, sometimes the way we approach pornography can be tinted with the bias of our culture, social background, or our own background—all of which may lead to negative experiences—but it can also challenge assumptions, promote inclusion, and, yes, even help people heal through difficult times in their lives.

Curious as to how? Well, here are just a few ways in which we personally envision pornography helping with someone’s healing process.

Helping Increase Intimacy In Relationships

Pornography can often seem like the sordid little elephant in the room of a relationship, but why should this ever be the case?

Such practices of porn consumption (alone and in secrecy) are based on a culture that shames people for their sexual habits and fails to acknowledge that there may be a disparity in people’s desires and/or preferences which is perfectly fine (and normal!)

Hiding a porn habit from a partner/partners can certainly be damaging, but opening up about your porn consumption, being honest and open with your partner...well, studies have shown that this can actually increase intimacy in a relationship.

This is because the major issue when it comes to pornography in a relationship is the secrecy aspect of the situation. If you hide your porn you’re basically suggesting that you don’t trust your partner and perhaps even suggesting to them that they’re not good enough in some way (whether you mean to or not).

If, on the other hand, you’re open about your porn use then you don’t just eliminate a source of secrecy in the relationship but also create a focal point for a dialogue about sexual preferences to occur, which may even lead to mutual porn viewings and shared pleasure.

This method of discussion may even reveal other aspects of each other’s sexual preferences which may lead to further healing, such as…

Promoting Visibility

Although we can rarely dictate what our fetishes and inherent sexual preferences will be, those who have certain fetishes are often met with ridicule and seen as somehow deviant because of them.

This is a great shame when it comes to consensually enjoyable sex acts—as it’s a given that not everyone will like the same thing.

But, alas, many fetishes don’t get positive representation in the media…that is until you turn to porn.

Rule 34 exists for a reason, and it’s because no matter your fetish, no matter how isolated you may feel, you are not alone, you are not troubled for having a fetish, and porn can help you work through those emotions.

Pornography has also seen a big rise in feminist and queer representation in recent years—making the LGBTQI community visible in a typically respectful and inclusive light.

Seeing yourself in a sexual content should never be underestimated. The power of visibility is sometimes everything and it can be the start of a very rewarding healing journey.

Providing A Safe Space

In this journey of intimacy, discussion, acceptance, and exploration porn also provides something else that is invaluable for healing—a safe space.

Pornography can be viewed wherever you want, whenever you want. You can curate your own collection, explore what works for you, and avoid anything that could potentially cause you distress.

In this context porn is essentially a safe space through which anyone can approach any form of self-healing on their own terms and with their own sexual preferences in mind.

Because pornography utilizes so many sense it can also allow people to engage in many different ways to further explore their own emotions. A fan of the visual? Make a scrap book of the most significant moments in porn. Captivated by words? Write down your favourite phrases and keep them in a little jar to revisit whenever you need sexual validation or inspiration. Like motion? Then keep on watching and your needs will most likely be met.

Whatever your approach porn has something that it might be able to offer you, and it will give you the space to do so on your own terms.

And That’s All For Now!

Pornography will always have its detractors, and there will always be people who misuse it. But the next time someone vilifies porn just ask yourself if their statement would ring just as true if ‘porn’ was replaced with something like ‘video games’ or ‘movies’.

Of course, only you will know the answer to that question, but hopefully we have shown you just a few ways in which pornography can become an incredibly positive transformative tool for self-improvement, and we sincerely hope that people are able to use it in such a way.

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By Emmeline Peaches
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@EmmelinePeaches

 

 

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